The Life of a Submissive

The life of a submissive isn’t always an easy one.  It might sound easy to have someone guiding you through life, but it’s not.  It is very difficult trusting your life in some other person’s hands; trusting them to know what is right for you and make decisions in your best interests.  It is difficult to let go of control and give it to someone else and trust them with it.  It takes practice.  It takes conscious decisions.  It takes. . .balls.

To listen and obey.

To trust.

To relinquish.

It’s not easy.  Then to be punished.  That’s a whole different ball game.

To trust someone to punish you for misbehaving and not to take it too far, or push you too far beyond your limits.

To accept that you have done something wrong and know you will be disciplined for it.

Knowing it will hurt.

It takes a strong person to be a submissive.  It takes a lot of love, trust, and the big one. . .communication.

The life of a submissive isn’t an easy one, but I think for most of us we wouldn’t have it any other way.  It is our devotion to our Dom(me)s, Daddys/Mommys, Husbands/Wifes, Masters/Mistresses and HoHs that drive us to want to be better and be the best submissive we can be.   If we didn’t love them unconditionally we wouldn’t be so willing to submit.

The life of a Submissive. . .I can’t even imagine the life of a Dominant.

My Thoughts on Domestic Discipline

I am not an expert on domestic discipline. Though I have been getting spanked and punished by various partners over the years, I have only recently formed a true domestic disciplie relationship and we are still working out the kinks. However, I am a strong believer that domestic discipline can improve just about any relationship as long as trust and communication are involved. Each time that my husband spanks me, I feel so much closer to him. I trust him more, and afterward I just feel like I want to please him in every way possible. It is also a wonderful stress reliever. Being 9 months pregnant, I have a lot of mood swings and I tend to get a pretty bad attitude and I like to take it out on my husband. Once he spanks me, I lose the attitude and I just feel so much better. I am no longer stressed and I just want to cuddle. It also reminds me of my place as his wife. Now I can’t say for certain, but I think by spanking me, my husbands self esteem and confidence is improved as well. He is able to let off some steam and punish me for something he believes is unacceptable. Needless to say, it is great for our sex life as well ;). As we progress further and further into domestic discipline I find it easier to talk to him about all of it, where I used to feel shy and apprehensive. Without a doubt, Domestic Discipline has helped our marriage.