Anniversary Spanking

Okay, so I lied in the post titled anniversary.  I am updating on Tuesday when I said I would post on Monday.  Apologies, my daughter wasn’t feeling well.

My husband and I had a lovely anniversary weekend and I honestly didn’t give him a reason to spank me though that didn’t stop him.  It wasn’t very severe especially because I was rather intoxicated and didn’t feel much 😉

As I had mentioned in a previous post, I did surprise my husband with a short, lacey, low cut nighty and he loved it.  I went into the bathroom and put it on and came out wearing it.  I loved the surprised look on his face because I have never done that sort of thing before.  He decided to spank me then and there so he grabbed my hairbrush and pulled up my nighty to reveal my already bare bottom. 

He first massaged my bottom for a while and gave me the impression that this would be a short spanking, if you know what I mean 😉  He then held me around the waist and came down hard and fast.  I wiggled, but he held me tight.  He would stop occasionally to rub my red bottom and to let me rest, then he would continue. 
Then he picked up a wire hanger.  I was a little concerned because I had never been spanked with a wire hanger before, only plastic.  He only lightly tapped me with it, but it stung quite a bit.  I squirmed and whined, but he continued to tap the hanger across my bottom. 

The last implement he used was the belt.  He had me laying flat on the bed while he stood over me and folded the belt in half.  He came down hard, each time striking the opposite cheek.  After a few minutes he was finished and we enjoyed the rest of our night together 😉

Our entire weekend went extremely well and we had a very good time.  The only bad thing was we couldn’t find any sex toy shops in the area (damn smartphones).  1 year down, the rest to go!

I Love It When…

I love it when my husband stares into my eyes like he is trying to look into my soul.  What is it about a certain man’s stare that can make a woman feel so vulnerable?  It’s almost like they are seeing things that they shouldn’t.  The things we keep hidden sometimes even from ourselves.  I have known my husband since I was a sophomore and he was a senior in high school and he knows more about me than anyone in the world, but he still makes me feel shy, vulnerable, and naked.  Not in a bad way though.  In a way that makes me feel feminine, submissive, enamored, and lustful.  Most of you understand 🙂

I love it when my husband holds me down.  He will pin my hands above my head with his, it is such a turn on.  I love it when he takes away my control because I have a lot of responsibility and “control” everyday, so losing it for a few minutes to a man I love and trust can be a beautiful thing.  However, I prefer him to take it than for me to give it.

I love it when my husband makes demands in the bedroom, especially during my punishments.  It was really, very hard for me to get him to the point where he is now as far as his Dominance, his role in our Domestic Discipline Relationship, and comfort with punishing me.  So sexual demands and punishment demands are a wonderful thing and I love submitting to them.

I love it when my husband pulls my hair.  It always makes me instantly alert and ready to submit.  He never pulls to hard, or hurts me too much.  Always just enough to get my attention. 
I love it when my husband tells me I am going to be spanked.  I have tried to explain the difference between saying “do you want a spanking?” Or  “You are going to get a spanking.”  It’s the difference of me making the decision and being in control of the situation or my husband taking control and making the decision.  Seeing the trend yet?

I love it when my husband pulls down my panties.  Something about this act makes me feel very vulnerable and exposed even though my husband has seen me naked hundreds of times (from all different angles too 😉 ).  I always feel my heart start to pound a little harder when he does this.

I love a lot of things about my husband, I could list hundreds of things.  I am a lucky lady and I am so excited to be celebrating our One Year Wedding Anniversary in 3 days.  Everyone at our wedding wished us “a lifetime of happiness”…he gives me that everyday.  Even on the days we bicker and don’t see eye to eye. 

Anniversary

I can’t believe it, the thought of writing a post about my One Year Wedding Anniversary hadn’t even crossed my mind…until 2 seconds ago when I was so shocked that I hadn’t that I had to write one RIGHT NOW! 

Our One-Year will be on August 25th.  We are planning a little weekend get away and leaving our daughter with my parents.  We are getting up early on Saturday so my husband can get to his drivers’ meeting at 7 AM while I do a little shopping.  (Shhhh don’t tell, I am going to surprise him with lingerie!)  Then, we are going straight to the Racetrack to bet on the horses.  After that, we will go to check into our hotel and find a restaurant/bar where I can have a few shots and prepare for the night ahead.  I know I am in for a spanking that night, he has had so few opportunities to do so lately that I am sure he will come up with a reason to spank me if I don’t give him one O:)

The following day will be spent shopping, playing miniature golf, and probably rushing back to hold my baby.  This will be my first night without her and I am a little apprehensive.  I am not sure how well I am going to sleep knowing she isn’t just a few feet away from me.  Not that I sleep when she is either…That is also where the alcohol comes in :p.

So, hopefully things go as planned and we have a nice weekend.  I definitely need it!  I am also very excited for my year-old-frost-bitten-wedding-cake and champagne! I will be sure to let you know how my anniversary spanking goes on Monday, and maybe pictures to go with it??? We will see.

Spanking in Silence

I know I have said this a lot lately, but my husband and I really have been very busy.  From my husband’s new job, the baby, our new house, our anniversary trip next week, I picked up a sales job, etc., we really haven’t had any time at all for our Domestic Discipline relationship.  Well last night my husband improvised and may have come to a solution.

Last night, I was at a practice Mary Kay party so that my cousin can get back into the groove of selling.  My husband got out of work around 8:30 and picked my daughter and me up at around 9.  From there we went home and got ready for bed.  While we were in bed talking about our day my husband told me to go to the closet and pick out a hanger.  I already had a good idea of what he had in mind because I was the one that had told him a very long time ago that plastic hangers are wonderful for nearly-silent spankings.  So I went to the closet and picked out a pretty pink hanger.  When I came back to bed he told me to “get into position.”  I really didn’t know what position he wanted me in so I had to ask.  He had me bury my face in my pillow and stick my bottom up in the air.

I would like to point out that I hadn’t done anything wrong that warranted a spanking, this was just a maintenance spanking.  I would also like to say that I was a little concerned because the hanger is silent, but I am not.  Our daughter’s crib is in our room and only a few feet away from our bed and I didn’t want to wake her up (especially because she is 5 and a half months old and still wakes up every 2 hours at night).

My husband almost never spanks me over my panties, but he did this time. . .well, started that way and he wasn’t taking it easy on me.  He would spank me very quickly all over my bottom and it was very difficult for me to not whine, whimper, and cry out like I normally do.  Instead I breathed heavily and more or less ate my pillow 😛  I didn’t even want to squirm too much because I didn’t want the bed to make noises and wake our daughter up.  I suppose this is a great way for me to learn to take my spankings better, but it wasn’t easy!

After a few minutes of spanking me over my panties, he pulled them completely off and continued to spank my bottom with the pretty-pink-plastic-hanger.  Maybe it was just because there was no longer anything protecting my bottom from the sting of the plastic, but I believe he started to spank me even harder after my panties were removed.   It took all that I had not to squirm and whine while he made my bottom match the pink hanger.   The spanking was short, probably only 5-7 minutes in duration, but plastic hangers sting something awful!

Once he was finished, he had me stand in the corner and he told me not to turn around.  I had to stand there for 5 minutes while he admired his work and I am pretty sure I could hear him masturbating behind me, but I wasn’t allowed to look and see.  When I was finally able to return to bed he held me and kissed me and then made everything all better 😉  I am pretty sure we will be using this spanking method more in the future.

Good News!!!

So our waiting and our hard work has finally paid off!  My husband and I are not only going to be homeowners, but we are also going to be landlords!  We are very excited about the good news, it was much needed after losing Jack.  It will be a little while before we get to move in because there are still people living there, but soon!  I can’t wait to decorate, buy furniture, designate a spanking room 😉 , and really make our new house a home.   This is why my husband has been so busy and unable to spank me, he has been working 70 hour weeks so that we can save as much money as possible for the coming expenses.  Isn’t he fantastic?

I’m a happy happy girl.

Sorry for the short post, but I wanted to share the news!  More to come 🙂

The Life of a Submissive

The life of a submissive isn’t always an easy one.  It might sound easy to have someone guiding you through life, but it’s not.  It is very difficult trusting your life in some other person’s hands; trusting them to know what is right for you and make decisions in your best interests.  It is difficult to let go of control and give it to someone else and trust them with it.  It takes practice.  It takes conscious decisions.  It takes. . .balls.

To listen and obey.

To trust.

To relinquish.

It’s not easy.  Then to be punished.  That’s a whole different ball game.

To trust someone to punish you for misbehaving and not to take it too far, or push you too far beyond your limits.

To accept that you have done something wrong and know you will be disciplined for it.

Knowing it will hurt.

It takes a strong person to be a submissive.  It takes a lot of love, trust, and the big one. . .communication.

The life of a submissive isn’t an easy one, but I think for most of us we wouldn’t have it any other way.  It is our devotion to our Dom(me)s, Daddys/Mommys, Husbands/Wifes, Masters/Mistresses and HoHs that drive us to want to be better and be the best submissive we can be.   If we didn’t love them unconditionally we wouldn’t be so willing to submit.

The life of a Submissive. . .I can’t even imagine the life of a Dominant.