Goals


As I have said before, my husband and I are relatively new to the Domestic Discipline lifestyle. I am always reading blogs and posts online to get more information. I have been reading this blog: http://www.adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com recently and I like what he has to say. In a few of his posts he talks about having a weekly sit down discussion about everything domestic discipline. I suggested that to my husband and he agreed that it was a good idea. The blogger also said for the sit down discussion I should have a list of goals that I want to achieve, and my husband should also have a list of things he thinks I should work on. Then we can talk about them and discuss appropriate punishment if I don’t reach my goals or if I start back tracking. Also ideas that we liked. There were somethings in the blog that we didn’t particularly like or think was necessary like starting a calendar because I have this blog where I record everything. But anyway, here is my list of goals:

1. Lose 10 pounds a month until goal weight is reached(Still have 15 pounds of baby weight to go, but I want to lose a bit more than that).
1b. Exercise at least twice a week.
2. Stop calling my husband names (I have the bad habit of saying things like, “stop being such a dick.”)
3. Stop swearing. (This is a rule, but my husband hasn’t really been enforcing it. This will be discussed this week)
4. Limit my drinking (Since I am no longer pregnant I have been drinking a lot more. I don’t get drunk, but I will have a drink probably once a day, and I don’t really want that to be the case. I will let my husband decide how much I am allowed to drink per month)
5. Be more independent (Since we have gotten married and have a baby and I have been very dependent on my husband. To an extent I know my husband likes it, but I feel like a child when I need to be an adult and mother. I don’t leave the house or do much of anything without him.)
6. Start writing again. (I used to write books once upon a time, none that I have ever sought to have published, but I would like to try to write another novel and, hopefully, get published this time)

This is what I have come up with so far. I have not yet mentioned any of them to my husband, but plan to this week when we can sit down and talk. I will write a post about how the discussion goes and his response to my goals. We are also working on a new and improved list of rules. Feedback is always appreciated 🙂

4 thoughts on “Goals

  1. June says:

    Its funny cause i have similar goals. I love writing and due to workimg a lot, i had stopped! My fiancee has meantion that i need to start writing again and so i think i am going to menation this to him. Also, i want to loose at least twenty more pounds so i feel better about myself. Your rules made a lot of sense to me and some i plan to discuss with him. We are actually just starting to use the domestic discipline within our relationship. It took a few days to get him to agree to this because at first he felt akward to spank his loved one. I have not actually been punished yet and i am both excited and nervous about him punishing me. Just like you and every other women, we tend to call our men names when angry. Anger is not an excuse to be disrespactful and that him and i really need to learn. However, we have agreed that he is out of line sometimes and that it was only fair that he obeys the rules he came up with for us. I know that is different but is the best thing for our relationship. His punishment is loosing the computer for a day when he breaks a rule, and it has to be that day. (if you knew how much this man loves his computer game ‘wow’) You would understand how loosing the computer for a day would equal up to a spanking. Thanks for stories and allowing me to share my story! 🙂

    • xotheladyxo says:

      Thanks for your reply, I’m glad you find my posts relatable. We are still working out the kinks of our lifestyle, but domestic discipline definitely benefits our marriage. Best of luck to you and your fiance, I hope you get as much out of domestic discipline as we have.

  2. xotheladyxo says:

    Thanks so much for reading my post. I have definitely found some helpful advice on yours. 🙂

  3. MrBBSpanker says:

    I’m happy you and your husband found the ADDS site and are utilizing it as a helpful tool in your journey forward. Sit Down Discussions combined with the TiH List are vital in a DD dynamic and I look forward to coming back soon and reading how your first “official” SitDD went. 🙂
    Respectfully,
    MrBBSpanker

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